Thursday, April 03, 2008

Wait...

Waiting, waiting, waiting! Sometimes waiting is just...so loooong and boring! BUT it's actually a really important thing to learn and to be able to do - even if it's not that fun all the time. :) I was reading another blog (I have no idea which one it was...otherwise I'd give them the credit for this idea that I read there!), and this mom had a SUPER idea. It's common sense really...but I just never thought of it before! She was talking about some of the things you can do to prepare a child under the age of 2 yrs. (or around that age) for a new baby that is coming! And this of course fits right into where we are at right now...Tate will be just under 2 yrs. old when his little sibling arrives. I've been trying to prepare him by teaching him to be gentle, and talking about babies and letting him help me get things ready for the baby...but I'm not sure how much of all that he understands. I think he still thinks that "the baby" is his little doll. haha. :) Oh well. He is very gentle with his doll and gives her lots of hugs and kisses...so at least he thinks that babies are a good thing!

Anyways, this other mom had a really cool idea on how to prepare your 1st child for the arrival of the 2nd. It's simply this: teaching your first child to WAIT. Why didn't I think of that? haha...oh well. So recently when I'm busy with something (like finishing the dishes or brushing my hair, or doing my devos) and Tate needs me to come and play with him, or to come help him pick up the mess he made (haha :) )...I tell him that he needs to wait a little bit and then I will come help him. He usually cries when I tell him this...but if I am busy and I know it won't take long until I'm done, I make him wait a little bit. Because when the baby is here I'm sure I won't be able to jump up and come with him IMMEDIATELY every time he needs me. Of course, if he needs something important I would help him right away! I always make sure to come after a few minutes of him waiting though and help him with what he wanted help with...so he understands that if he just waits for a bit, I will still be coming to help him and I'm not saying 'no', I'm just saying 'wait.' So I'm hoping this will be helpful for us! He does seem to be catching on to the idea of "waiting", but he still doesn't like it. :) Waiting's just not that fun I guess! ;)

By the way...on a totally different topic...do you see the piles of snow we still have up there in that picture?!?! It is melting, but there's still quite a bit of snow to go!!

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8 comments:

Pam said...

I think that is a good idea. I also tried to make sure Ashlyn heard me tell Riley to hold one because I was helping her. Nothing major- just a "hold on Riley, I will change your diaper next, right now I am helping Ashlyn" so that she understood that they both have to wait at different times. Also, if both were crying or something at the same time (unless there is a safety issue), I comforted Ashlyn because she will remember, Riley won't/doesn't remember that he had to wait a bit. Hope that doesn't sound mean.

Tara said...

My first son was 17 months old when my second son was born... and it actually went incredibly smoothly. There was a bit of jealousy about sharing me but mostly my firstborn was really wonderful with his little brother! When my daughter entered the picture my sons were 4.5 and 3 years old and that was tougher. But they have adjusted very well over all. The biggest problem we have is when all three of them want me at the same time!

Pia said...

waiting is really such a hard thing to do but patience is a virtue... i have to keep that in mind. =D

Amber said...

I agree...kids are too used to instant gratification today and I think technology is partially to blame!

Wendy said...

That is a good idea! Lani is NO GOOD at waiting. Many temper tantrums result:( I have many other kids here during the day, but her jealousy is horrible lately. Especially with baby Oliver because he needs more one on one attention. I wish I had known about the technique before I started watching Ollie. Maybe it would have helped. Good luck with everything!!

Lori said...

waiting is a hard skill, but one very much worth learning! I often wonder how Blake will do when the new baby is around... we will see soon enough!

30 Minute Mommy said...

That is great advice. I am sure it will come in handy for me before too long. Eliza is not a wait kinda girl right now. I hope that changes!

Melain said...

That is sensational advice. A couple things I did that were very successful: 1) Get an infant doll for the older child and give it to her/him when baby comes home. They can do all the things you're doing with their baby. and 2) Ask for their help with the baby. Have them get you things and give baby the pacifier and other small things. That helps them feel included, rather than replaced. It worked great for me both times!

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