Sometimes, kids can just be so mean. I don't understand - really, I don't. Why couldn't Tate just have one little hug? Tate is a very gentle little guy. He loves to hug other kids and he likes to do things like gently stroke their head or pat their back. He never hits - in fact, I don't think he has ever hit another kid before, and he's never really rough. (once in a while he might get a little excited about a certain toy and throw it a bit or something...but not because he's trying to play rough - just cause he's excited).
Anyway, in church on Sunday I was in the nursery. I take my turn sitting in the nursery during the Sunday School hour at church - about once a month. So, of course, since Tate isn't old enough for sunday school, he's in there with me. Usually it is just Tate and one other girl who's probably about 8 months older than him in there. This girl is quite mean. She won't share and gets very mad when Tate tries to play with anything that she is playing with or with anything that she WAS playing with. Plus she is just mean to him in other ways too. He tried to give her a hug on Sunday. She pushed him away....hard. Tate just looked at her. I don't think he knew what was going on. So, he tried to give her a hug again - and she shoved him away again! I felt SO bad for Tate...he was just trying to be her friend. Just one hug. So, he tried to stroke her head a little bit - ummm...as you probably can guess the little girl got angry at that as well. So I finally just took Tate on my lap. I don't want to tell Tate NOT to hug or be gentle with other kids this way. The little girl just needed to learn how to give a hug back or be gentle with kids that are younger than her...but I'm not her mom, so other than telling her not to push, I couldn't do much. It was sad though. He just wanted a hug. I know some kids are just naturally more "rough" than others...but still. It is not fun to watch your kid get bullied or pushed and shoved by another one, when they are just trying to be nice!
Well, at least he gets lots hugs at home! And he has a few other little friends that like to give him a hug back. I'm happy to see that this girls' pushing and shoving and screaming at him didn't stop him from wanting to give hugs to other kids. :) I can't say that I'm looking forward to working in the nursery with this girl there again next month though...
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Friday, February 22, 2008
Just a 'lil Hug
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awwwwwwwww...sometimes it hurts my heart when I see other kids being mean to Taylor.....you're right, I think that kids nowadays are a lot meaner then when we were growing up, that's for sure. Its really sad :-(
Oh- that is so sad that she pushed him away. I am sorry! I feel so bad for Tate. I am glad that he still loves hugs and being kind. (of course he does with you for his mommy!)
Poor Tate. I know how you feel, it breaks my heart when I see kids being mean to Gavin.
That is a very hard thing to see. You have to wonder if that little girl is not used to being hugged by others and therefore didn't know what Tate was doing. I'm glad it didn't effect his wish to be close to other children.
If only everyone could be as sweet as Tate. It sounds like he is a loving little guy. I know I always struggle with what to do when other children are mean to my daughter. It happened just last week at a play place and the mother of the other child was there. She didn't do anything. I never know if I should say something or just shut up. Give Tate a hug from us.
That is so hard. There is a little boy in one of our play groups that is mean like that. It just hurts your mommy heart when you see your child being pushed away. It's so hard- and I know that it will only get harder when they get older.
We had the same problem when landen was Tate's age. He was always trying to hug all these kids and they would get so mad, push him. It made me want to cry.. they thought he was some sort of freak or something because he wanted to show them love. We're huggers at this house --- well to our children. Ha ha! Landen is a bit more rough now that he's older but he doesn't try to hurt people. Like you said, excited over a toy, etc. We went through a little pushing stage, but it didn't last long. I know how you felt though because I have felt the same way.. many a times.
I was going to say that this was a cute picture but now I am reading the comments and know that wasn't your intention. Sorry that the girl was mean, there used to be a boy in a playgroup I attended that was horrible to the other kiddos - glad I stopped going!
Being in the child care field there are always some children who were rougher than others. It was so frustrating, but we always had to remember that they were so young. At this age you know it's something they see or learn at home:( One of the kids would body slam the others and we found out the Dad loved to wrestle with him. Seemingly harmless, but not when the little boy couldn't understand you only do that with Daddy! Know what I mean?
Poor Tate...luckily he is young enough to not be turned off from hugging other sweeties!!
I understand exactly what you're talking about as the same thing happens to Chloe all the time. But watching kids a bit older than her, I've realized that they become very protective of their personal space and that I need to teach Chloe to respect that too. It's something they need to learn too. Just think how you'd feel if some one started stroking your hair or hugging you, especially when you didn't want them too.
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